Comments on: Tattling, Telling, and Working it Out http://www.beautifulletdown.net/tattling-telling-and-working-it-out/ A breastfeeding blog that dabbles in tandem, extended nursing, gentle parenting and much more Tue, 13 Apr 2010 01:45:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: IComLeavWe: Day 5 | PhD in Parenting http://www.beautifulletdown.net/tattling-telling-and-working-it-out/comment-page-1/#comment-1831 IComLeavWe: Day 5 | PhD in Parenting Thu, 26 Nov 2009 04:48:52 +0000 http://www.beautifulletdown.net/?p=663#comment-1831 [...] Beautiful Letdown: Tattling, Telling, and Working it Out [...] […] Beautiful Letdown: Tattling, Telling, and Working it Out […]

]]> By: Casey http://www.beautifulletdown.net/tattling-telling-and-working-it-out/comment-page-1/#comment-1830 Casey Wed, 25 Nov 2009 20:58:03 +0000 http://www.beautifulletdown.net/?p=663#comment-1830 I agree with you that some kids do work things out and when mine get a bit older and have some more practice under their belts, they will do that more often. Usually my first indication of a conflict is the yelling or crying, so I am entering in at that point. Right now, I'm actually trying very hard to have my 4 year old come tell me if there's something he cannot solve with words, but most of the time he doesn't. I agree with you that some kids do work things out and when mine get a bit older and have some more practice under their belts, they will do that more often. Usually my first indication of a conflict is the yelling or crying, so I am entering in at that point. Right now, I’m actually trying very hard to have my 4 year old come tell me if there’s something he cannot solve with words, but most of the time he doesn’t.

]]> By: Annie @ PhD in Parenting http://www.beautifulletdown.net/tattling-telling-and-working-it-out/comment-page-1/#comment-1829 Annie @ PhD in Parenting Wed, 25 Nov 2009 20:54:21 +0000 http://www.beautifulletdown.net/?p=663#comment-1829 I don't expect my kids to be able to work things out without my input and I agree with your suggestion to model the words that they can use and help them to a resolution where appropriate. That said, if I am overhearing a dispute and can tell that no one is in danger, I will not jump in and start offering words and resolutions. I will wait and see if they are able to work it out on their own. Or if one of them comes to me to complain about the other, I will not necessarily jump into the situation directly, but may give some suggestions to the one who was complaining as to how he/she can deal with the situation to try to resolve it. I don’t expect my kids to be able to work things out without my input and I agree with your suggestion to model the words that they can use and help them to a resolution where appropriate.

That said, if I am overhearing a dispute and can tell that no one is in danger, I will not jump in and start offering words and resolutions. I will wait and see if they are able to work it out on their own. Or if one of them comes to me to complain about the other, I will not necessarily jump into the situation directly, but may give some suggestions to the one who was complaining as to how he/she can deal with the situation to try to resolve it.

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